Need personal advice?

im in a relationship thats had a lot of ups and downs, a lot of downs on my girlfriends part. she hurt me a lot in the beginning, shes 4 years younger than me, and we started dating when she was 16. so she was on the immature side when we started, and she made a lot of mistakes. the outcome of all of it has made me a bit on the controlling side, but i want to change and im just not sure how to. anyone with any suggestions would be a great help. its the only way i can think to save this relationship.Need personal advice?
Well ask her what she'd like to do once in a while. Take her opinion, leave it to her to set things up. The best way to not be in control, is to pass the controller. Neither of you should be in control, you should be equally involved. Do things for each other because you care, not because its about control or what you get in return. And don't change, that's a bad word. Improve yourself. Just do it better, better yourself. I hope this helps. Also, maybe step back a little. Not saying break up, but give each other space now and then. You want to be together, but you also have to live your life. Remember the closer you get to something, the hard it is to see it clearly, so don't take it for granted.Need personal advice?
Maybe she is new at this if she is 16. Can you give her some time and try to be patient with her. She needs to act more maturely too.